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Questions and Answers - Number One
Thanks
for all the wonderful and intriguing feedback, as well as the well-thought
out questions you've sent to us. This email focuses on questions
sent to us regarding Lessons One and Two, specifically.
Hi. What's the best way to have/install/replace beliefs, so that what
you want manifests itself automatically?
There
is no one best way, as different things work for different people.
But one of the most important ideas is that you can't really change
a belief until you really see it and know it, since it's been a part
of your identity. This is a process of becoming more aware.
(This is especially key when changing long-held beliefs, but not necessarily
as relevant when changing a belief that you don't have a lot of emotional
issues attached.)
So,
first, as uncomfortable as a belief or idea may seen, simply look
at it head on - notice it without reacting to it. Writing about
it often helps. What exactly IS this belief and why have I been
believing it? Remind yourself that experience is not "proof"
of reality, but just evidence of an active belief you've held.
Then,
allow any emotional issues and feelings to come to the surface and
be released. Often it's because of fear that we have a tough
time releasing a belief... the fear being, what if I release this
belief and it turns out to be true and it comes back to haunt me,
so to speak? In this case, it's good to know that fear doesn't
speak TRUTH, it just tells you what you've been feeling separate from.
Most often we experience fear when we're coming into our own power,
taking back our power from somewhere or someone where we've projected
it. For instance, if you're afraid of what your significant
other might say if you haven't cleaned the kitchen but had said you
would - it may be time to take a chance on NOT being "prepared" or
"protected" against any predicted arguments or onslaughts and simply
decide for yourself that it's perfectly fine that you didn't clean
the kitchen - to feel comfortable with your decision. Fear may
tell you that you will get in trouble, but what you're actually doing
is internalizing that sense of outside authority. When you are
comfortable with your decision, that vibration is then reflected outside
of you as well.
Once
you've dealt with any strong emotional "baggage" around a belief,
it's mostly a matter of becoming conscious of all the ways that old
belief used to manifest, and simply and gently remind yourself, "Oh,
that's right, I'm not doing that anymore. I'm focusing on this
<new belief> instead." It's like retraining any habit - this
is just a habit of focus.
I think some people have a little bit more freedom to do as they wish with
themselves, but I don't think that everyone can do the
same things that everyone else can. I have gone through
a lot of self-conditioning.. re-working my attitudes and things.
I do co-create.. or at least I make several valiant attemps.
Simple things... such as if for example I am sitting at a
dinner table at lunch. I stare out the window and think, and visualize
and chant under my breath that a person on a bike is
riding by right this instant and is nearly passing this window
and into my line of site. *shaking head* it doesn't work. I've
done this in several different places - some minor situations,
and a few of them for major situations in my life... sometimes
co-creation works, but often times, it doesn't.
Playing
with conscious creation like this is a GREAT way to get to know how
it works for you. What you've shown yourself is that when you
just think certain thoughts, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't,
so there must be other factors involved, we must conclude. The
key here is a sense of desire or even "passion." Did you really
CARE, one way or another whether or not that boy on a bike showed
up? Conscious Creation isn't only a mental focus - it's a process
of learning that our being, as it exists in physical reality is actually
a focusing tool unto itself - we choose thoughts, experience emotions,
feel desires, and allow the energy that we are to move through us
and into expression in physical reality. We create what we resonate
or vibrate with - we create in physical reality who we are, and what
we choose to express of ourselves.
In
becoming aware of how to consciously create what we want in our lives,
you have to become aware of WHAT YOU WANT. Of what really resonates
with you, what interests you, what intrigues you. This sort
of self-knowing can be described as a feeling tone or particular vibration
that feels really "us". Most often it's called a "heart's desire"
because the energy is often felt as a vibration in the area of the
heart or heart chakra.
As
we grow up, we often disconnect from this feeling tone as we learn
to fit more into society. We don't KNOW what we want anymore
and keep looking around us and finding only partial matches, until
we look within. Sometimes that inner recognition starts as a
feeling of wanting SOMETHING, but not knowing WHAT exactly - let the
feeling flow through on its own course and it will show you.
Sometimes we'll remember something that we used to do in our childhood
all the time that we absolutely loved and had forgotten about in our
drive to fit in, get a job, and be productive according to the dictates
of current societal standards.
So,
ask yourself, "What do I really LOVE? What do I CARE about?
And what makes me really happy to think about and do?" Once
you start looking, you'll find that you have opinions and preferences
in areas where you used to feel like you had no choice at all!
That's when the creation fun begins.
(same questioner, continued...) I have had people harp
me telling me that it is my fault my fault my beliefs that
are holding me back and it is my reality. Well, in response I
must say "Yes, you must be right - it IS my reality." It's not
like I've never given it any chances.. and I have given it MANY clear
shots... :-( but it just refuses to come out. Kinda like that with
me and Astral Projection.. people say that ANYONE can do it. Well
of course... just like ANYONE can fix a car or be a chemist
- however the chances of EVERYONE having such capabilities
are very slim. Please tell me your thoughts on this...
and do consider it seriously.
You
speak of conscious creation as if "it" is outside of you or unavailable
to you. Is this what you believe? One way to start changing
this belief is to remind yourself that you are creating your experiences
right now with your own thoughts and focus. In your paragraph,
your thoughts are focusing on your ambivalence or non-commital to
the idea that conscious creation works. And that's exactly what
you are experiencing as well! It's that simple and that complex.
Look EXACTLY at your thoughts, not just what you'd like them to produce
in physical reality. Or, look at what you're really experiencing
in physical reality, to give you an idea of where you're actually
focusing. You can use physical reality as a mirror to your own
thoughts. The trick is to make the mirror as clear as possible
by seeing what's really in front of you.
And
don't judge yourself harshly for creating what you see as less than
what you say you want - that means you're focusing on not allowing
yourself to love yourself and on getting less than desired results
in physical reality. Ask yourself in these cases, "What am I
REALLY focusing on here?"
There are many contradictions I am finding within my own discoveries and
some of the spiritual or New Age thoughts/practices
out there.
So
true! What works in one way for one person will not always ring
true for another. You must pick and choose what works for you
and simply allow the rest to flow away from you. And there's
no need to struggle against what doesn't work or to try and convince
others of your truth.
One
of the main components of "the shift" or "transformation" of consciousness
in this planet right now is the shift from duality to unity, which
involves the idea of PARADOX, which we'll talk about later in this
email with another question. During these changing times, many
old secure constructs and ideas get "thrown up in the air" so to speak
and nothing seems certain. In these times, the best thing to
do is to get in touch with your intuition/inner guidance, and learn
to trust that instead of trusting any rockbed rules you may
have grown up with. Everything is indeed up in the air!
I understand the teaching of centering yourself in joy and doing what I do best
while in that state. I have a question: While performing acts
of kindness, or helping another soul to see their potential,
I, myself, feel the joy after the fact. Are we in the state
of joy when we are actually doing something that we know
later we make us feel good? What I am trying to convey
is that I actually feel my joy and it brings smiles and warmth
to me. If I feel this when I giving to another,
it takes away the need to do for others, and I begin to focus
on me. I seem to be getting confused here. My joy
is private(what I feel). Do others feel the joy when I am helping them?
------and another question along a similar vein------
First of all....in lesson one, you stated that we are individually unique,
yet you also talk about separation. If we are one, god
or love consciousness......who does the separating? Is
it ego? Is it intellect? How can we be unique if we are one
with god consciousness? Can we have oneness AND separation?
It doesn't seem likely to
be able to believe
in both.
Secondly, there is
a place in lesson two where you speak of selfishness.
And I quote: " We are not here simply to "help others",
we are here to LIVE, and to do whatever expresses
our joy. This might INVOLVE helping others, but only if
it brings you joy to do so." If I could quote from the Gita:
"You have the right to work, but never to the fruit
of the work. You should never engage in action for the sake
of reward, nor should you long for inaction. Perform work
in this world, Arjuna, as a man established within
himself--without selfish attachments, and alike in success
and defeat. For yoga is perfect evenness of mind."
My question is...if
you perform an act for another in order to bring yourself joy....
isnt this not indeed a selfless act, but one of selfishness?
That you have done the act in order that you may reap of
the fruit of the act?
Albert
Einstein wrote that we cannot solve our problems at the same level
of understanding we were at when we created them. The level
of understanding that we are now expanding into is the understanding
and experience of PARADOX. A paradox is defined as a situation
that appears contradictory but is nonetheless true. It's not
necessarily something that we can linearly "think through" but something
that we can "know" to be true nonetheless. Understanding the
paradoxes that surround us is the way we expand beyond the idea of
linear thinking and are able to grasp some of the deeper concepts
of consciousness. In quantum physics terms, for instance, scientists
have now discovered that during a certain experiment, two particles
that are in different places actually communicate INSTANTLY
with each other, defying our previous beliefs in time and distance
(space). This kind of paradox leads us to expand our previous
beliefs about the nature of time and space and physical reality, and
thus allows us to grow past our old frameworks of belief.
Paradoxes
also apply in metaphysics and conscious creation. The idea of
Divine Selfishness is a paradox. The first question was... (snipped)
"I actually feel my joy and it brings smiles and warmth to me.
If I feel this when I giving to another, it takes away the need to
do for others, and I begin to focus on me." When are doing what
makes you happy, you feel that state of joy. Many times we initially
recognize that state of joy as being dependent on what we are DOING
in physical reality, but the truth is that we can experience joy UNCONDITIONALLY,
no matter what's going on around us. You have started to notice
that you feel joy and connectedness when you are helping others
- great!
When
we start becoming aware, we often start with using our five senses
and work our way "back in", that is, we see the effect and then follow
the trail of bread crumbs back to ourselves to realize that we are
now allowing our energy to flow and are acting in alignment with our
Inner Selves. If we are TOO focused on helping others and are
ignoring our own feelings and states of being, ironically, we then
stop listening to our inner guidance about the best way to help others.
We feel best when we are acting in accordance with our Inner Guidance
- sometimes this will actually defy the "rules" of what we thought
being compassionate and helpful were, but will always work out for
the best of all concerned. This is one way to look at divine
selfishness. We must also remember that when we take an action
because we feel inspired to, whether it's taking a street person to
lunch or painting a picture, we are flowing the unconditional love
that is us, and that's what we share with others, what we are "vibrating"
in that moment.
The
second questioner in this section quoted the Gita by saying (snipped)
"You should never engage in action for the sake of reward, nor should
you long for inaction." There are many ways to interpret
works such as this, many of them aren't in the same language from
which they originated, and the beliefs of the times in which they
were written is also important. But many ancient writings also
contain wisdom, and again we must each be our own guides here.
Our take on this, through the lens of conscious creation, is this:
There is no cause and effect here as we have come to know it - in
other words, WE are the cause, and anything we experience in physical
reality is the effect. Life is unconditional, and it's best
to move under that assertion. For instance, if you are taking
a street person to lunch (to use a previous example) SO THAT YOU CAN
FEEL JOY, then you are most likely NOT acting from an inspired standpoint.
You are looking for conditions in physical reality to create joy or
good feelings, which is conditional. When you love yourself
unconditionally, and trust your inner guidance and inspiration, you
will be flowing love outward with whatever action you take.
Here's
another way of looking at this. If you are baking a cake just
because you want to eat cake, but really hate the process of baking,
you are NOT flowing joy during that process, and the results will
most likely be less than desired, or you will not feel that great
overall. If you want to eat cake, focus on eating cake, and
allow your Expanded Self (ATI, the universe...) to bring about that
result in the best way possible. In this way, it's important
to be really specific about what you want to experience. If
you want to create a million dollars or world peace, for instance,
the world around you will tell you all the specific steps you have
to go through in order to achieve this, but that is, once again, in
the realm of conditional thinking, and there's NEVER, despite what
we've been taught, only one or two ways of doing something.
The idea here is to find YOUR way - trust yourself, and trust your
inner guidance to lead you on the most direct path. This path
may look a little strange to your rational mind, but trust it anyway
- this is often where the idea of a leap of faith comes in.
The
questioner also posed, "My question is...if you perform an act for
another in order to bring yourself joy.... isnt this not indeed a
selfless act, but one of selfishness? That you have done the act in
order that you may reap of the fruit of the act?" Yes, that's
it exactly. The belief underlying this is that you can't simply
allow yourself to feel joy unconditionally, and must "earn" it - which
results in an act which doesn't express joy in its doing, but rather
is focused on the results in order to achieve joy.
Remember
that this is a paradox. When we allow ourselves to BE that joy
that we have been taught to seek in the world through good deeds,
then we are also expressing that joy and connectedness in everything
that we do. Conscious Creation, that is, creating what we want
in our experiences, happens most directly when we allow ourselves
to be connected... when we are not judging ourselves and when we are
loving ourselves no matter who we are in that moment. What if
we are in that expanded state and feel a joyous impulse to snatch
candy from a baby and toss it away? (We're using a drastic example
here to illustrate a point.) Can you trust yourself then?
Our inner guidance speaks to us in the voice of intuition and impulse
most often, and as we go, we learn to trust ourSelves more and more.
Our inner guidance has access to a much wider expanse of information
than our waking awareness does at this point. For instance,
once I was in the grocery store and had the impulse to buy a few extra
items that I knew we already had at home, but I did it anyway, even
though it made no sense. When we got home, we found out that
these items had already spoiled and wouldn't have been usable.
Sometimes
we find out why, sometimes we don't. In the case of taking candy
from a baby - perhaps there was something wrong with the candy that
would have made the child sick to eat! That's just a small example,
but there's a lot more going on than we may recognize in every moment.
What we label a "selfish act" simply because of what it looks like
on the outside, may actually have nothing to do with the reality of
the situation.
At
this point in our understanding of the universe, and physical reality,
we can learn to trust that we come from love and that we ARE love,
and that when we are acting in alignment with our expanded Selves,
when we feel that joy and connectedness, we can also trust our impulses
to action in physical reality. There is no room for prejudice
here. (We define prejudice as pre-judging a current situation
based on past situations.) Each situation is different, and
if you are not focused in the NOW moment where you are, you are back
in time, and your current actions are more a RE-action than genuine
inspired movement and expression.
And
back to that other question:
First of all....in
lesson one, you stated that we are individually unique,
yet you also talk about separation. If we are one, god
or love consciousness......who does the separating? Is
it ego? Is it intellect? How can we be unique if we are one
with god consciousness? Can we have oneness AND separation?
It doesn't seem likely to be able to believe
in both.
The
experience that there is an ego or intellect that is separate from
ATI (All That Is) is a reflection of a BELIEF in separation, as there
is no separation to the self. Who decides YOU DO. Who are you?
Whomever you decide to be in this now moment. We can believe
that we are separate when we identify solely with our five senses.
WHY did we decide to start by believing in separation? You'll
have to come to your own conclusion about that, ultimately.
The most truthful answer we can give, from our own experiences, is
very basic and goes something like, "Because we wanted to experience
what it would be like to forget and then remember again."
Everything
in physical reality surely LOOKS separate. In physical bodies,
John and Kristen are separate individuals, with empty space in between.
On an energetic level though, there is no such thing as empty space,
for even space is made up of energy, and there is the same amount
of empty space WITHIN us than between us for that matter.
Think
of a flashlight analogy. For so long we've identified ourselves
as physical beings in physical reality because we've only focused
on physical data, what we were illuminating with the beam of light
- we've only allowed in information that fit our belief systems of
who we are. During this time of transformation we are beginning
to see that physical reality is an illusory state - valid, but a separation
that is more illusion and play-acting than a truth that also exists
outside the physical reality system. In other words, we expand
beyond and open to more than just the physical data and realize that
there is more to us - we start to become conscious of the flashlight
itself, not just what is being illuminated, and of the hand that holds
and directs the flashlight, and of the person that decides how to
move the hand. The larger we expand, the more we realize that
those things that we initially believed as being outside of us, were
more like "previews" of what we were, at all times, in the act of
becoming.
For
instance, it's quite fine to believe that you are separate from god,
or that are separate beings that live in a beneficial universe.
But as we get used to this state, we start putting 2 and 2 together
here, and start filling in the spaces of what we thought was between
us and god, finally realizing that there is no difference. And
we will change and transform as we expand - another way to look at
this is as the process of growing to be more in alignment with god
or our higher selves.
Ok, I'll bite. My parents honestly were not emotionally available for me; I
grew up with a mother who was angry all the time at me,
and a father who criticized me because I wasn't good enough
due to being brought up by my mother. This
situation created some bad patterns that I still struggle to overcome.
How did I, a child, create this? I would think it much
better to create a healthy family so as to grow up without
the negativity and dysfunciton engrained in my soul
like a heavy canon ball.
I have done some work
on healing, and I can talk to my father, but not on
an emotional level. I still can't bring myself to be around
my mother and be anything resembling peaceful - I just want
to bolt!
It's
often questions like this that get us to examine our assumptions about
what physical reality is supposed to be. And these questions
will always lead us back to a greater understanding of ourselves and
the world, if we are willing to follow and release what we thought
we knew and felt secure in.
We
are always creating our experiences in physical reality, whether or
not we are CONSCIOUS of them and feel empowered to CHOOSE what we
want.
Ask
yourself, why do YOU think you would have created a childhood like
you did? We have many judgments about what should or should
not happen, what is good, what is bad, and these labels give us convenient
answers but often we stop there instead of looking for what meanings
a situation has for us, personally. None of us were born into
what we would consider "ideal" situations, and yet we WERE each born
into a unique set of circumstances that allow us to experience physical
reality in a certain way.
The
more my awareness expands, the more I am able to see how the experiences
of my early life fit in exactly for me to experience the events and
challenges that I am interested in. Think of your life like
a hologram. (I'll define a hologram in a simple way here, as
being a picture that, if you cut a piece out of the picture, the piece
and the picture still contain the whole of the image.) Each
linear experience is a part and reflection of the whole. Sometimes
things don't make sense to us until years later. Sometimes we
think we understand as we're doing something, and then get more "ah-HA"
moments about it later as well. Sometimes we never consciously
understand, if we don't want to.
In
this specific situation, the questioner grew up with an angry mother
and a critical father, and so internalized these attributes and is
now struggling with them. What is the essence of this struggle?
Anger is usually an expression of fear and powerlessness, while criticism
is often an inability to love oneself unconditionally. What
this person's parents are expressing is what they have experienced
for themselves. There are many challenges that could be taken
from this situation. Perhaps the questioner was interested in
the process of learning to love the self unconditionally and to consciously
know their connection with their
Source. Perhaps
the essence of what this questioner is looking for is HOW TO TRANSFORM
FEAR INTO LOVE.
Physical
reality is a world of amazing contrasts. The idea with conscious
creation is to use this contrast, like beacons, to align ourselves
with our Selves. Unfortuneately, many times we assume that feeling
BAD is SUPPOSED to be a part of life, rather than a message to us,
telling us that something is out of whack here. "Negative" feeling
is most often an indication that we are choosing thoughts and beliefs
and focus that are NOT in alignment with our Inner Selves. If
we are unaware of these choices (creation by default, patterning we
unconsciously assume from our childhood environments) then often we
create, in physical reality, more of what we are unconsciously resonating
with, in order to show ourselves what we're doing.
One
of the only reasons for so-called "suffering", is to stop doing it.
If you keep putting your hand on a hot stove, pretty soon you'll come
to your senses, become AWARE, and say, "Hey, this doesn't feel good.
I'm going to choose something else." And that's where we consciously
start our path of awakening.
End
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