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RC101 - Lesson Two
Discovering
your Joy and the Importance of Self-Love
We’ll
get to today’s lesson in a moment, but
first let’s go over the homework.
Look
at the list of beliefs you wrote out and whether you labeled
them “good” or “bad.” Now think about the definitions of
good and bad in your life. Good and bad are both judgments we
place on events, judgments born of a perspective of duality.
From an integrated (unified) perspective, there
is no good and bad, there are only events
and ultimately we only create “good” in
the sense that everything we create, whether pleasant or unpleasant
is showing us something new about ourselves.
Releasing
judgment is the first step in today’s lesson. Self-judgment
is one of the ways we can severely limit our own creative
expression. Judgment is often the iron door that keeps you
from being with and expressing your inner child. It’s based
on rules we learned growing up, rules about what
is right and wrong, and what we "should"
and “should not” do as "responsible adults",
what’s okay, and what’s not okay.
Very
often we are afraid to release judgment because we are afraid
of our own sense of power. Judgment keeps our power in check,
keeps us from “going too far” and hurting others. If you are
feeling like this when you think about releasing judgments, then
relax. Tell yourself that it’s only for a little while, think of
judgment as a big mental overcoat that you are
going to remove for a short time.
If
there is any underlying purpose to conscious creation, it’s to
put you in touch with your own inner joy. We define
joy here not as an emotion, but as a state
of being. You can be centered in your joy
even when outside circumstances are difficult or even
tragic. This does not make you callous to the events that are
going on around you, you are simply in touch with your inner
strength, and not being swept out of your center by the emotional
dramas going on. (For instance, think of the clear-headed person
that does what needs to be done in an emergency without
panicking.)
When
you are fully in touch with your own state of joy, it is much
easier to create the circumstances of life that you want to experience.
Your joy is an excellent guide, it’s the voice that is most
in harmony with your own intuition. For some, even touching
upon that state of joy seems difficult, though most of us
have, at least small areas in our life where we are willing to
feel joy.
What
makes you feel joyous? Try to make a mental list, no matter
how small or silly it seems. It could be a piece of chocolate
cake, your dogs, or a cigarette.
Did
you react to that last one? Many of you may have thought “but
cigarettes are BAD for you.” This is a perfect example of both
beliefs and judgment. If you believe the cigarettes are bad for
you, then they are. When you project that belief onto anyone
else or on yourself even while you’re smoking
that cigarette, that’s judgment.
It makes you WRONG and shuts down your ability
to love and accept yourself unconditionally.
Sometimes
we allow ourselves to become separated from our joy
by associating it with something that our beliefs say is bad
for us. Aside from cigarettes, many people believe
that chocolate is bad (“it will make you
fat”) or diet soda (“it’s really poison
you know”) or even water (“20 million people are drinking
uranium in their water”)... the list goes on and on, and each
one of these statements represents a belief. Some of them you
might accept as true, others you may scoff at as ridiculous,
while the exact opposite may be your neighbor’s
perspective. It’s important to realize
that these are YOUR beliefs, and while they
apply to you, they do not necessarily apply to anyone else.
Does
this mean that if you used to love smoking, but you quit three
years ago because you believed it was making you sick, that
you have to start smoking again in order to experience joy? Of
course not. Instead, you can let go of the old association,
understand that you do not need the cigarette
in order to experience joy - that’s just
how you used to do it. You do not have
to challenge every belief that you carry in physical reality; the art
of being a conscious creator is learning to pick and choose
the beliefs that we want to create with.
The
Importance of Self Love
The
importance of self-love in our lives should be immediately obvious,
yet can you honestly say that you love yourself wholly and
unconditionally? Many of us cannot, often there are parts of our lives where we would forgive others
without blinking an eye, yet
we will carry judgment and self-punishment around with
us for years like a ball and chain attached to our ankles.
As
a conscious creator, being in touch with your own self-love means
being in touch with the source of your own being. This is where
your power to create channels from. When you are focused
outside of physical reality, you are not experiencing separation,
so loving yourself is as natural as breathing is here. Loving
yourself HERE, in physical reality, is equally as natural, although
most of us have learned a lot of rules and conditions that
we layer over our ability to be and express love.
What
happens to those areas where you don’t forgive/ love yourself?
At the very least you drain your own energy by continually
attaching yourself to the event where you are judging
yourself so harshly. You might choose to manifest this in
any number of ways in your present life as well: physical illness
is a very common one, recurring dreams or nightmares is another.
You might also believe that you don’t deserve everything
you want in life because you did this “bad” thing many
years ago, and so you sabotage your own attempts at
creation.
This
does not make you a victim to yourself. Actually, it’s a great
example of just how powerful you are. Imagine what sort of
creative abilities it takes to constantly recreate a boil on your
butt because you beat up another kid in grade
school 20 years ago. The kid was a pain
in the butt to you then, and is still a pain
in the butt to you now! Realizing what it is that this kid represented
to you will help you gain clarity around the event. Forgiving
yourself, and allowing love to flow in will release the energy
around the event, you will stop beating yourself up for having
beat up this kid 20 years ago.
Divine
Selfishness
One
of the big differences between conscious creation, and many
other systems of thought is that conscious creators recognize
and celebrate their own motivations for the things they
choose to do.
We
are not here simply to “help others”, we are here to LIVE, and
to do whatever expresses our joy. This might INVOLVE helping
others, but only if it brings you joy to do so. (Do not get
the conceptual focus of expressing joy confused with the infinite
number of ways that joy can be expressed in physical reality,
or you’re simply adding another rule to how you can express
your love and joy.) Self honesty is important in this area,
because we often like to adopt a sense of false humility about
such things, believing that we are “spiritual” from doing them,
rather than just from being who we are.
The
concept of divine selfishness is different from the selfishness
that you may have grown up believing in. Traditional selfishness
is based on a belief in lack: “There is only so much out
there and I need to get all I can.” Conversely, the traditional
idea of selfLESSness is also centered around a
belief in lack: “There is only so much
out there, and if each of us was only to take
what we ‘needed,’ there would be enough to go around.” If
you let go of the belief that there is lack, whether it’s money,
love, or natural resources, then traditional concepts
of selfishness/selflessness just fall apart.
Being
divinely selfish means trusting that following your joy is the
best possible thing you can do for not just you, but for everyone
else as well. Believing in abundance means that there is
more than enough for everyone - always! You understand that
each person is creating their own situation, their own life script
and trust that no matter how you might be tempted to judge
it from the outside, they are getting some sort of value fulfillment
from it. Living from a divinely selfish perspective provides
a role model for those who are not following their joy, it
is the true essence of “teaching someone to be a fisherman”
since you are not preaching concepts, but instead
living them and modeling that for others
to take notice of.
Does
this mean you WON’T help others or will only be lost in your
own little world? No. Remember not to confuse the idea
of being in your joy with it’s expression.
In any moment, your joy is actually guiding
you to the best possible action to take in any
moment. Also remember that joy is a state of being, which
can feel like anything from a happy possibility
to the action
taken with the most integrity.
Someone like Mother Theresa could only
have done her good works by being in her center and following
her own calling and joy, otherwise she most likely would
have burnt out a long time ago. In order to fill the glasses
of others our own pitcher must first be filled.
Homework
1.
Pick an art form, it can be something you are not proficient
at, but have easy access to. It
can be a pen and paper, your computer,
a musical instrument, clay or whatever intrigues you. Now
allow yourself to play. If you’re sensitive to criticism by others
you might want to do this somewhere where you won’t be
disturbed. Don’t try to write a novel, or create a symphony,
play the way a small child would. Scribble,
sing loud and off key, bang on
the keyboard, keep playing until you feel that sense
of inner joy well up through your heart.
2.
Pay attention to the judgements that you place on yourself during
the day. How self critical are you when you drop something
or make a “mistake”? Pay attention to the thoughts and
possibly ghost voices which run through your head at these times.
If possible, send yourself a little loving forgiveness every
time you catch yourself being harsh and critical.
End
Lesson Two
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